omg this is so interesting! Too excited for the next batch!
What do I know about love and happiness? Nothing. But I'm working on it.
True story, my friend has been pining over this guy for YEARS. I would say almost 3 years. The used to work together but he lived in Europe. They would skype all the time and when he came to visit years ago, they ended up hooking up and she said she loved him. Points to know, he had a gf at the time who he lived with and when he went back home, he told my friend he was staying with his gf.
This cycle then happened a total of 6 times throughout the years. They would talk, he would visit for work, they would sleep together, they would get close, he would go home to his live in gf who he was ”confused” about. He was confused said he couldn’t handle things. stopped talking to my friend. Sometimes he wouldn’t even visit, they would jsut talk on the phone and he’d get her hopes up and then insist he wasn’t ready. She just kept on with this guy saying how much she loved him.
Well she just told me while she was overseas in Paris he met her there and everything fell into place. She then went to ireland for 10 days where he lives and they did a road trip down the coast and now have an 18th month plan (18 months?!?!) for what their future holds.
I mean, i was there for here everytime this guy was a jerk. and the kicker was they were never together that whole time! He was with another girl for the whole time they knew each other and cheated on her with my friend! i was there to listen to my friend cry and moan so you can understand why i hate the dude right?
So why this sudden change in him and their new ‘relationship’? Is there such a thing as fairy tales? Can you just keep your hope in someone until they come around? Like a rom-com? The bad guy learns his lesson and chooses the nice girl after all after hailing down her plane or flyinng overseas to see her.
I mean, I’m not sure what emotion is talking here. Anger? Jealousy? I should be happy for my friend but i’m also upset she waited so long to tell me about her trip and this sudden change in her life. For all i know she could be moving to ireland any day now.
She said she knows he has a lot of proving to do to her friends and loved ones but he already proved himself to her. I tell you, he doesn’t have ANYTHING to prove to me. I saw the proof for the past 3 years as he dicked her around. I have no interest in ever meeting him or being friends with him.
Is there such a thing as the bad guy wising up for love? Like Carrie and Big? Can someone really come to the light after years of being a jerk and live happily ever after with the girl who pined for him all that time?
(oh and ps, he has no job right now and hasn’t for months because he got fired from where they worked. he also seems like a complusive liar, and sees a therapist, which is not bad itself but he gets anxiety attacks all the time and can’t committ to anything. i dunno)